Deb's Newsletter
Joy to The World |
May 1st, 2008 |
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EMPOWER YOURSELF Joy to the World (Are you living a life that makes you a joy to be around?) “Each relationship you have begins and ends with you.” Lynette Garcia Have you ever noticed how your mood affects others? How about how other people’s moods affect you? I invite you to become more aware of this, as we all affect each other, as there is constant interaction and exchanges throughout the day. You cannot do a lot about how much joy others will spread into your life, but you can control how joyful you are to be around. What a difference we could all make in this world by simply spreading a little joy! Everyone has worries and everyone has stress. To different degrees to be sure, but basically, everyone has a story. Does your story define you? For example, do you feel like you have been treated unfairly in some capacity, and the feelings of hurt or anger won’t go away? This sounds like a pretty good reason to be bitter and miserable – right? WRONG! We don’t have this right. Why do we feel so special as to think that we have a right to be miserable to anyone, never mind those that we love and care for? Just because we may have a good story, does that give us permission to be a negative Nelly and share our dark cloud hanging over us with others? Negative energy breeds negative energy. It pollutes our earth. It makes you and others around you miserable. So what if you didn’t get that job or promotion or that man or that woman or that raise or that recognition you feel you deserved? This is all part of living and learning. Being successful and being happy are not future events that the end justifies the means. If the means did not contribute to human happiness, neither will the end. So, enjoy the journey. Have some fun. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, because you will! So what? Does making mistakes make you less of a person? Of course not. So, stay positive and joyful while on the journey called life, and you will be a joy to be around. The following is a list of 10 ways to be more joyful to be around: 1. Accept others for who they are – they will appreciate it. 2. Do not try to change other people. They are who they are, just as you are. 3. Find out what you can do for others, not what they can do for you. This not only applies to your business life but to your personal life as well. Ask you loved ones what you can do to support them. What a way to deepen a connection. 4. When others are talking, really listen to them and their point of view. Validate their feelings. 5. Be totally present when you are with others. If the other person is speaking, don’t plan your grocery list in your head. Listen! 6. Put other’s needs first. Even to someone who is grumpy and see what magic can happen. 7. Do not judge others. No one is better or worse than another. 8. Smile! This will automatically make you feel better but will also let others know that you are approachable and that you enjoy them. 9. Show your gratitude for meaningful people in your life. Small things mean the most; a thank-you, a cup of coffee, fresh spring flowers. It doesn’t take much to bring joy into someone’s’ life. 10. Before offering advice to someone, ask if they want it. Accept it if they do not. There is nothing joyful about being around a “know-it-all”. This Month… 1. Pick 2 or 3 of the above each week and pay particular attention to them, and practice, practice, practice. 2. The last week of the month, try putting them all together and track your progress. I dare you! Empower Yourself – Try This: Simply, be a joy to be around. Remind yourself that others have their own worries and concerns, and don’t need to hear yours’. Turn the negative energy and negative talk into one of support and positive energy. Everyday, just try it once. I promise you, you will be more joyful, and more of a joy to be around. If you really want to go out on a limb here, ask a few people in different areas of your life if you are a joy to be around. Then LISTEN to their answer, even if you do not like it. Challenge yourself! I thank you for taking the time to read this. As always, I invite any questions or comments and would be honored to help you create more positive energy and joy in your life. Until next month, warm and happy smiles to all, Deb Fortier |
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Past Newsletters:
July 10th, 2008 - Who Are You?
May 29th, 2008 - Want More?
May 1st, 2008 - Joy to The World
March 24th, 2008 - Got Ego?
February 27th, 2008 - Another Relationship?
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